The attraction between a man and a woman is determined by multiple factors. Men are visual creatures, but this doesn't make them superficial. There are other biological, psychological, and experience-based factors that make them feel attracted.
To make deciphering men easier, we compiled a list of what attracts men to women.
Factors That Determine Attraction in Men
Attention: there are only a few common things men always are attracted to, however it doesn't mean you have to completely change yourself to fit these requirements. The decree we recommend is "the most suitable for yourself is the best." For example, the fragrance of the flower you cultivate at home is far better than any perfume, if you're close nature and don't like something human-made.
However, the factors below still can give you a few tips.
1. Makeup and clothes
Makeup is a powerful tool that helps women enhance their beauty. When it is used to accentuate the beauty of a woman's facial features, it is most welcomed by men. Conversely, when you start adding too many layers of foundation and fake eyelashes, you are slowly and unwillingly pushing them away. While men appreciate the effort, they don't like it when it looks fake. Don't underestimate the power of red lipstick though. It makes men unconsciously think about your lady parts.
What attracts a man to a woman first are definitely not skimpy clothes. Men describe they are attracted to a combination of good taste and mystery. They don't appreciate a woman who shows all her assets at once. Instead, we urge you to wear clothes that flatter the shape of your body and hide more than they reveal. Men love imagining the way you look under your clothes.
2. Hair and smell
Studies have shown that men are generally attracted to women with medium to long hair. In addition, they prefer disheveled hairstyles because they look more natural and playful as opposed to a tight bun. This doesn't mean that you can't wear your hair in any other way that makes you feel confident.
As for the smell, it seems that men's senses are stimulated by sweet fragrances such as that of popcorn and donuts. However, besides wearing alluring perfume, your body emanates pheromones, which are hormones that act outside your body and influence the behavior of men. The ideal combination to attract men is high estrogen and low progesterone levels as it denotes high fertility.
3. The tone of voice and choice of words
A sensual voice attracts men to women as well. This doesn't mean that you should try to change the way you speak. Just pay attention to your tone. A low, warm, and sensual tone of voice is more attractive to men and it has the power to arouse them.
When it comes to the choice of words, men prefer direct women. By direct, we mean women who don't deliver subtle messages impossible to be picked up on by men. They like it when you openly talk about things. However, men don't appreciate the usage of vulgar words unless it's dirty talk and it happens behind closed doors.
4. A positive mindset
There are few things that push a man away like a depressed woman. If you want to be attractive to a man, make sure you have the right attitude. A cheerful woman in a good mood doesn't have a hard time charming a man. Better yet, instead of trying to appear happy in front of a man, make sure you feed your genuine happiness every day.
What attracts a man to a woman, physically speaking, can change as soon as a positive personality is detected. According to a study from 2010, men choose women with positive personalities even if they don't have perfect bodies.
5. Level of maturity
Your level of maturity has a lot to do with how experienced you are with men as well. As you mature, you learn more things about what you want and need from a relationship and from life in general. You become more confident, which is also a very attractive trait in women.
According to counselor Michele Kerulis, the initial sexual attraction is not considered as important for mature people. They tend to look at the bigger picture, not every insignificant physical detail.
6. Kindness and sensibility
According to The Evolution of Human Mating, by David M. Buss, kindness is a trait that both men and women look for. Kindness is associated with being cooperative, taking an interest in nurturing long-term relationships, and feeling empathy.
This behavioral trait also helps you look more attractive in the eyes of a man. Just like being a positive person puts you in a better light, so does kindness.
Altruism is another characteristic that sparks interest in a man. Among others, this is because it ensures you will be a loving mother who will teach her children the right moral values.
7. Sense of humor and auto-irony
What attracts a man to a woman is not how funny she is, but how funny she thinks he is. If you are able to appreciate the jokes men make and laugh at them, you will be perceived as attractive. Men don't need you to be funny. They need to make you laugh. They need an easy-going woman by their side who doesn't get upset over a bad joke.
In addition, auto-irony is perceived as proof of intelligence. Most men appreciate a woman who can joke about her own flaws.
8. Taking an interest
When you honestly take an interest in what a man has to say, he perceives it as an aphrodisiac. It doesn't matter if he is talking about an intelligent topic or how he tripped while playing golf last weekend. If you pay attention to him, ask him follow-up questions, and use your body language to show interest, he will suddenly feel more attracted to you.
Ways to use your body language in your advantage are to lean towards him when he is talking, to look him in the eyes and maintain eye contact, as well as to react to what he is saying depending on the situation with a smile, frown, or a sad face.
Summary
As shown, what attracts men to women is a combination of physical factors and personality traits. If you keep a positive attitude, act kind, laugh at jokes, and look tasteful and presentable, your chances of being appealing to men are quite high.