A girl has recently caught your attention or you have liked her for quite some time. You often say to yourself, "I really like this girl", but you don't know how to proceed. The last thing you want is to blow it with her. That's why learning how to make her yours is the best thing you can do.
As it follows, I will share 10 steps meant to highlight your qualities, make you approach her in a better way, and raise your chances with your special someone. You will not become another man in the process, but a better you.
Get to Know Her as a Friend First
You might have your reasons for liking this girl, but do you really know her? Maybe you've been blinded by her striking beauty, her awesome skills, or her amazing personality. Trying to find out more about her and acting as a friend pays off in the long run. On one hand, you will either deepen your feelings for her or find out you don't like her as much as you thought. On the other hand, she will see a friend in you, not a guy who is constantly trying to seduce her using cheap tricks.
Most successful relationships are based on an initial friendship. So, get the friendzone idea out of your head and try to make this girl your friend first.
Always Look Presentable and Don't Skip Grooming
In order to be seen as a desirable man, you don't have to be ripped or particularly beautiful. What you need to do is always look presentable, never let yourself go and include grooming in your schedule.
I will not tell you to hit the gym just to impress a girl. If you keep thinking "I really like this girl", so I have to lose a few pounds, then your motivation is wrong. It would be ideal for you to exercise because you wish for a healthier body and a more attractive look. Changing your appearance for someone is not recommended.
Make sure you take regular showers, wear clean clothes, and smell nice. Follow the basic rules of grooming and you're set.
Highlight Your Independence and Freedoms of Thought
Momma's boys are cute and adorable, but they are rarely desirable men as opposed to independent men with strong beliefs and principles. Showing her that you manage on your own and that you have your own opinions about everything is how to make her like you. However, try not to fall into the other extreme and seem arrogant or inflexible.
Natural selection speaks for itself here. Unless the girl you like is the type who is looking for broken people to fix, you must come off as a standalone individual who is capable of taking care of himself and others, more specifically her.
Offer Your Undivided Attention and Make Time for Her
This step involves two levels. One is about listening to her. By this, I mean really listening to her when she talks about anything. Make sure to take mental notes of what she says. For example, try to remember when she has an important event coming up so that you can support her and ask her about it. Or pay attention if she tells you about her pet being sick or someone in her family. It's always nice to ask how they are doing.
The other level is about making time to meet her, go on dates, just hang out, or help her with something. A reliable man has more chances with a woman than one who is never willing or available to help.
Make Her Laugh and Show Her Your Interesting Side
You are probably tired of hearing this advice and you don't consider yourself a buffoon. No one is asking you to act goofy though. You could make your special someone laugh just by making a remark, not by learning jokes by heart. You can't say for sure "I like this girl" without you two having a laugh together. The same goes for her.
As for your interesting side, think about your hobbies and talk about them. A man who is involved in something or does something palpable with his hands has more chances with a woman.
Share One of Your Secrets With Her
More of a psychological trick than a step, this one works because you show her that you trust her. Also, because women love secrets. You make her curious, you intrigue her and you challenge her to keep your secret. However, don't share something that could be devastating for your social life. Something a little bit embarrassing works, but don't trust her with a vital secret. At least not yet.
Make Unintimate Physical Contact With Her
One of the ways you can show a person you are comfortable with them is unintimate touching. Also, it's a way to see how she would react. So, a tap on her back when she needs encouragement would be nice. Or help her get off the bus or your car by offering your hand. This is a gentlemanly gesture most women would appreciate.
Act as natural as you can without setting boundaries in your head. She might be thinking that if you don't touch her at all, you're not interested in her more than a friend.
Engage Her in Exciting Activities and Make Memories Together
Fear or joy enhances attraction. That's why taking her to an amusement park or seeing a scary movie can actually bring you two closer. Making her feel something else than boredom is already a good sign.
In the process of getting to know her, you could learn about things she would like to do but didn't have the chance yet. Use this information to plan exciting dates that she will not forget because they are new to her. Without wanting to, she will associate you with novelty and the adrenaline-inducing experience you two shared.
Flirt With Her and Tease Her
How to make her like you if you don't challenge her, tease her, or flirt with her? These are all part of the seduction game. Use your charisma, as well as smart thinking to lure her into your arms. Don't rely on cheesy texts or cliché pickup lines though. Try to stand out of the crowd and don't be just another guy for her. Find out what intrigues her, whether she likes mystery in a man or not, as well as other useful information such as her favorite candy. Flirting could also mean buying her sweets and making a remark about her sweet tooth. "I'll keep bringing you candy if this means I can see you" is a good reaction for when she's thrilled about getting all that candy.
Tell Her How You Feel
This step is for the bravest men. It implies confidence and overcoming the fear of rejection. Even so, I advise you to try a few of the steps above before confessing your feelings. Dating and catching feelings is a whole process that must not be rushed. It is in your best advantage to pursue this girl without trying to cut corners. This way, you both get to know each other better and can truly decide whether you want to start a relationship or stay friends.
In case you decide to openly communicate about how you feel, express your intentions in a casual and sweet manner. Try not to be overly dramatic and cheesy. You might scare her if you are too serious.
Closer to Her Step by Step
What these 10 steps are actually about is you growing as a man not only in your special someone's eyes, but also in yours. By applying them, you gain more confidence, look better, explore your hobbies, use your creativity, assume responsibility, and maybe even end up with the girl of your dreams. Good luck!