They say that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Although cooking something for your crush or the man you're in a relationship with is a nice thing to do, it doesn't help you tap into his ego. What does help is to ignore him to some extent until he is crazy about you.
Most women overreact when they feel their relationship is in danger. You don't have to fall into the same category. There are other ways to regain his interest or win him over even when you think there's nothing left to do. Learn how to ignore him just enough to reach your goal.
Ignore Him Step by Step
1. Don't put his needs first
When you don't put his needs before yours, you are one step closer to mastering the art of ignoring him properly. If the guy you're in love with gets used to having a shoulder to cry on or a partner in crime at any given time, he will take you for granted.
So, next time he calls you to meet up without having prior plans, refuse him. Don't make him think you're always available. Make him wonder why you can't meet him. Or, next time he calls to vent, don't listen to him. Tell him you're sorry for what he's going through, but you need to take care of your own business.
2. Focus on yourself
Don't just try to look busy to him; make sure you actually are. Instead of waiting by the phone hoping he will call, do something productive or relaxing. Spend time with your friends, go to classes, pursue your passions, or explore the outdoors.
Your availability matters, because if you're always free to hang out with him, he will not appreciate your presence as much. The main idea here is to make sure he knows you have your own life and you're not at his disposal.
There is something very attractive in an independent woman who doesn't change her schedule just to accommodate others'. However, you can compromise from time to time as well. Just not every time.
3. Awaken the hunter within him
Men still love hunting. This passion of theirs could be an instinctive reminiscence. They like nothing more than to run after what they want, especially if their prey is not easy to catch. If you ignore the guy you like and make him feel like he can't have you, you'll instill his hunting instinct, which will make him want you even more. It may sound like a game children play, but in a man's eyes, a woman who doesn't challenge him is not very attractive.
For example, if you happen to see this guy on a daily basis at work or school, don't just run over to him. Look at him, smile, wave, and keep going. Or, when he texts you asking you out, don't give him a straight answer. Be mysterious and say "maybe" or "we'll see."
4. Resist the urge to reply immediately
When he calls or texts you, he probably puts a smile on your face instantly. The joy you feel urges you to reply immediately. However, you should do the opposite. Let him wait for a while. For how long? you might ask. The wait can last between one hour and one day. It really depends on the situation. What's certain is that he will not feel comfortable.
This is how ignoring him to get him works. By taking your time to reply several times, he will ask himself what has changed and why he is getting less attention. His thoughts will bring him closer to you.
5. Keep him hooked
Since you can't play the Ice Queen role all the time because you would seem totally uninterested, it is advisable to give him a few hints of attention from time to time. For example, choose to immediately answer his texts for one day and then run cold again. Or, when you see him briefly, act flirty, interested, and warm for once. However, make sure your behavior is not constant. Give him something to cling onto and then crush his hopes again.
6. Make him feel jealous
Another effective way to pretend you don't care about the guy you're actually interested in is to make him jealous. Make him think you like someone else. If you go to a party together, don't hesitate to flirt, laugh, joke, and dance with other guys. Make him understand that others like you too and that you can have a great time without him. This will worry him and make him want to regain your interest.
If you make this man feel jealous, he will pay more attention to you than ever. He will see the threat of someone stealing you away from him. That's why he will try to surprise you and become more tender and attentive.
However, be careful not to go too far. Your goal is to make him jealous, not push him out of your life.
7. Try not to be emotional around him
Numerous women fail at catching a guy's attention because they confess their feelings too soon. They get too emotional around the man they like or have a crush on. Such gestures usually scare men away. The reason they get scared is that it takes a lot longer for guys to understand their own emotions, and, most of all, to express what they feel.
Even if your feelings are hard to control, you must find it in you to resist oversharing for now. Take a minute to calm down before you react.
Summary
As soon as you start applying the tips above, you will see what happens when you ignore him. You will draw him to you and keep him hooked. Remember, however, that it is necessary to maintain a balance between running hot and cold.