Wouldn't it be so easy if you could just tell the guy you like how you feel about him? But when you have a serious crush on a guy, this might sound like the last thing you want to do. Not only does the thought of blurting out your feelings terrify you, but it's also not the most effective way of getting him to like you back.
The best way to deal with this is by subtly showing him you like him, rather than telling him, and then behaving in a way that inspires him to like you back.
We've all heard of the cliche ways to get someone to like you. They seem to work in theory, but can be difficult to pull off in real life. I will give you a practical guide on how to get a guy to like you just as much as you like him.
Relax and Be Yourself
Being around the guy you fancy can have an overwhelming effect on you. Your heart's probably pounding, your hands are shaky, and you seem to have lost your ability to form a coherent sentence! It's a natural response to the attraction you feel.
Accept that your nerves are probably going to kick in and know that this is normal.
Take a deep breath when you know you're about to be in your crush's company. Relax and smile. Pause before speaking or responding to him. Don't try to be extra funny or super sexy, just be yourself. Your relaxed attitude will make him feel relaxed around you too.
Be the Best Version of Yourself
Becoming the best version of yourself will not only get a guy to like you, but it will also make him worship you. When you make an effort to always look good and feel good, you'll radiate with good vibes. It will act like a magnet and the people around you will be attracted to your great aura.
Think of how you are on your best days. Maybe you've had a good workout session in the morning and you're having a great hair day. You're wearing your favorite dress and fragrance and you just feel on top of the world.
When you strut past your crush, he'll notice you in a way he never has before.
Be Both Interesting and Interested
This means you'll need to work on your communication skills for the purposes of attracting the opposite sex. To be more than just a slightly interesting person to your crush, try to find out what you have in common. When you bring it up in conversation, it will be easy for him to be engaged and interested in what you're saying. Or you could talk to him about his passions. Be interested in why he's passionate about something. Listen and ask him questions about it too.
People love talking about the things they love and can tell when the person they're speaking to is genuinely interested. The guy you like will realize how much he enjoys talking with you.
This is how to get a guy to catch feelings for you.
Show Him Your Fun Side
For the most part, guys are the more easy-going sex of our species. They like to have fun and their dream girl will probably like to have fun too. Let your crush see that you don't take life too seriously and that you are a fun chick. Give him reasons to believe that his life would be filled with joy and laughter if you were his girlfriend - who wouldn't want that?!
Try to spend time together doing fun things. Crack silly jokes and think up little games you can play, like Guess What The Guy At The Bar is Thinking. These fun things will help create intimacy between you and will make the time you spend together pleasantly memorable for him.
Cultivate the Art of Coquettishness
To be coquettish can mean being flirty as a part of your personality instead of thinking of flirting as something one does. Being flirty can come off awkwardly if you're not used to behaving in this way.
Instead, practice the art of being coquettish. Try to appear playfully sweet yet seductive, inviting yet introverted. Tantalize his taste for a sexy woman, without making it too obvious.
For example, you can do all this by simply drawing attention to your lips. Slowly lick them before reaching for lip balm or lip gloss. He'll believe that you want to innocently moisturize them and you will inspire him to begin to think of other things he would like to do to your lips.
Show Him Your Softer Side
The thought of making yourself vulnerable to someone is scary, especially when you're not sure how they feel about you. If you open up to them and they reject you, this will make it considerably more hurtful. However, as they say, 'Fortune favors the brave.' Finding true love is a risky game that you have to be willing to play.
This tip on how to get a guy comes lower on the list for a reason. I only advise you to do this once you've adopted the other tactics and they were received favorably. Once you have an inkling that the guy you like likes you back, you can feel safe to reveal your vulnerable side.
When you do, it should plant the seed of affection for you in his heart, as well as spark his natural instinct to protect you. We call this the "Damsel in Distress Effect." In reality, this will work when you share with him one of the most traumatic things that happened in your life that would have become a part of who you are.
For example, you can explain why you have a fear of water or tell him about being bullied at school. As long as you are honestly opening up to him, he'll understand and appreciate that you simply wish to show him who you are, flaws and all.
Make Him Feel Like He's His Best Version of Himself
To make a man like you, old agony aunts would have advised us to stroke his ego. Time has shown us that you can kind of create an egotistical monster this way. Instead, we should make him feel that we see the best version of who he is. He will notice that he loves the way he feels about himself when he's with you.
You can do this by thanking him for being such a kind and gentle person to you. You can point out the little things he does that you like or that leave a good impression on you. Maybe he laughs at your silly jokes even though you know they're not that funny. Or you might be impressed by how excited he is about his work.
You noticing these small things will mean a lot to him and will most likely melt his heart.
Make Your Attention Valuable to Him
This last piece of advice will work wonders if you have the discipline to pull it off properly. After showing your crush what an amazingly attractive, interesting, fun, and sweet person you are, you will need to ration the attention you give to him.
Imagine your presence and attention is the sun that lights up his life. We all love a bright and sunny day, but if it shines too brightly, it will become too hot and we will want to go inside to cool off. So don't give him all of your attention all of the time, or it will feel like you're coming on too strong.
For example, when you're in a group of people, say hi to someone except him (maybe something distracts you). This will make him feel left out. When you speak sweetly to him a little later, he'll feel that the sun has just shone down on him.
More than just like you, this will make him worship you!
Summary
Getting a guy to like you can seem an impossible feat at first, but armed with the practical advice described above, you should feel confident that you can capture your crush's heart. Although there's no certifiable way to make someone have feelings for you, always remember that the most important element of being loved by another is to love yourself first. This contentment will radiate out of you and attract the man that is right for you.