Love blinds us sometimes, causing us to miss even the most obvious signs. It is the type of feeling we want to experience all the time, because it makes us feel good. In our search for it, though, we might lose ourselves, trying to make the wrong people happy.
The man you are currently in a relationship with might send you signs he's not the one constantly, but you just don't want to consider them. However, lately you experience more negative feelings both when you are around him and when you are apart.
Explore your intuition by going through the following signs which are meant to shed light upon your relationship. (Numbers 3 and 7 are the worst.)
1. Your Current Partner Is Selfish
Selfishness is among the signs he is not the one with whom you will spend your life. We all have moments when we think about what we want without considering others. To some extent, each of us can sometimes be egocentric.
However, if your partner makes everything about himself, he is too selfish to be your one and only. With such a guy, you won't have room to express your desires or tell him how you really feel. He has a way of turning all of your arguments against you and highlighting his own needs.
2. Anger Is His Best Friend
Since you are together with this guy, you've learned what the phrase "walking on eggshells" really means. He doesn't only act angry towards you, but also in relation to others. Among his frequent behaviors, you can count name-calling, vandalism, and even physical violence.
While there are certain ways you can deal with an always-angry man, he is most likely not your soulmate. You shouldn't let anyone put you down or hurt you intentionally.
3. You Can't Trust Him
Lack of trust is also among the signs he's not the one. In fact, trust is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. Instead of feeling at ease when he's not around or when he's on his phone, you feel threatened and anxious. You don't trust what he's telling you or his actions. Moreover, you feel pushed to doubt him because of how he handles things.
Being transparent is not among this man's strong points. So, even if he calls you paranoid sometimes, don't let this get to you. His shady behavior is the problem, not your doubt. However, make sure you are not judging him for something that happened to you in the past that he has nothing to do with.
4. There Are Lifestyle and Value Incompatibilities
How to know if he's not the one? Your lifestyle choices and beliefs don't line up. He is a fast-food lover who only eats salad when it's immersed in salad dressing, while you devote your time to learn new raw vegan recipes. It's not that you judge his choices but, as you see it, his diet is way too unhealthy for all of your future plans.
Or perhaps your idea of fun is hiking for the weekend, but you can't seem to get him off his game console. He has no interest whatsoever in your passions, although you take interest in his gaming. Another possibility is that, you might feel different when it comes to religion, ethics, and even politics.
5. You Don't Feel Respected
There are many ways in which a man can behave respectfully. He respects your sleeping schedule, for example, your routine, your decisions, and so on. Moreover, he cleans after himself, is polite, and doesn't question you. Or, he always lets you know when he is going to be late because he doesn't want you to worry and waste your time.
All these are signs that he is, in fact, the one if you also reciprocate. However, if you can't identify any of these aspects of his behavior, the conclusion is the opposite.
6. He Has Poor Communication Skills
Communication is just as important as trust and respect. A couple who openly communicates about everything has a very good success rate. However, if he is evasive when it comes to opening up to you or explaining his reasons for doing something, then take this as one of the signs he's not the one.
Not sharing important information or even a simple thought with you is going to lead to the failure of your relationship.
7. Cheating Is Among His Habits
I assume you are dreaming of a monogamous relationship since you are looking for your one and only. If so, there's no question about what you should do in case your current partner is cheating on you. You should break it off with this dude, no questions asked.
Regardless of how much it hurts to break up with the guy you love, you have to confront reality. It is clear that this man doesn't value or respect you, so he's definitely not the one. Why go through all that sorrow when you can be happy with another man?
8. He Doesn't Bring out the Best in You
Not only does this man not bring out the best in you, but he brings out the worst. We all know that love can make us a little crazy, and it can push us into doing stuff we would not normally do. However, if he brings out the worst in you, he is not a keeper. Whether it's about getting angry, jealous, sad, you name it - no man is worth stressing about this much.
Healthy relationships consist of people bringing out the best in each other, encouraging, supporting, and ensuring a safe environment for one another.
9. The Blame Game Is His Favorite
Let's say you find out your partner didn't tell you something important and you confront him. Instead of explaining why he overlooked the topic, he blames your hypothetical reaction. He claims that if he would have told you, you would have reacted negatively and probably against it.
Moreover, he has a way of always blaming you for how he feels, what he does, and how he reacts. He seems willing to argue with you about anything and make you feel worse every time.
Every one of the above behaviors is signs he is not the one. In addition, he is a toxic person who wants you to feel bad about yourself and a person who manipulates you to his advantage.
10. Something Just Doesn't Feel Right
Even if you can't put a finger on it, there is something off about your partner or you feel like something is missing. This is your instinct telling you that you didn't find the right person.
I'm not saying you should look for reasons to break up with this guy. However, if the spark is missing, all his other qualities become unimportant. Don't settle just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Accept and Move On
If the sad truth is now clear to you, then it's time to move on. Think of this breakup as a new opportunity for you to find the right man. Find a man with whom you will flourish and spend the best times of your life.