People lie for a number of reasons but the main motive behind lying is to run away from the truth. They think that the truth will affect their reputation and so they keep on building a house of cards based on their lies. In this article, we will explore lying from the perspective of male psychology. The main question is: why do men lie, especially to their partners? Lying doesn't necessarily involve big secrets like cheating or bad intentions. Men even lie about small things because they think it's easier to tell a lie than telling the truth. Let's see it through their perspective to know what it means when he lies to you.
8 Reasons Men Lie to their Partners
There are a number of reasons men lie to their partners. The following eight reasons will help you understand why do men lie:
1. To avoid disappointment
Men who lie don't always have the intention to hurt you. People sometimes lie because they think that they are not good enough, and they avoid telling the truth about themselves. They think that if they do so, they will lose your love or interest in them. So, they make up lies about their adventures, qualifications, and skills just to impress you. As a woman, try to understand that if he lies about anything to avoid disappointment, boost his self-confidence and tell him that you love him just the way he is. It will help in building trust within your relationship and he may not need to lie about himself. Although some people get so used to lying that telling the truth might seem unreal.
2. A house of cards
When people start lying, they make up another lie to hide the initial lie. Then they keep coming up with new lies to hide the previous lies. It becomes an elaborate process to make a house of cards. For example, when your partner gets home late, he might come up with an excuse that he was busy with a new project. In reality, he might have stopped at a bar or met his ex-girlfriend. Then he starts coming up with new lies whenever he is late from work. He does this because he thinks he will not be able to handle the conflict after telling the truth.
Sometimes, people lie because of a compulsive habit of lying and they don't even realize it. That's why it's important to consider all odds before jumping to any conclusions.
3. To avoid shame or guilt
This time, put yourself in a liar's shoes. Imagine a situation where you have made a mistake. You are ashamed of it, so you hide the truth and come up with a lie. That's what most people do because it's convenient to tell a lie rather than telling the truth. Men think that women are emotional, so they might overreact or they can't handle the truth.
4. They think they are not lying
It's not very common but in severe cases, people believe in their lies. Our memory is not based on facts but on our experiences and how we process the information. That's why some men think that they are not lying about an incident or where they were, but in reality, they are lying. Such behavior is triggered by stress, current situation, and their desire to convince everyone that what they are telling is the truth. In cases like these, you should consider treatment or therapy if you feel that is the real problem.
5. To boost their ego
Some men have huge egos. So, they lie to boost their ego. It can be about anything such as denying to know a woman at a party because so many women try to get his attention. He will take anything that will make him feel good about himself. It can also be about boasting of an adventure or a trip to impress you and pat his ego a little bit. Such lies are not harmful if he doesn't have the intention to deceive you but there is a fine line between simply lying and deceiving someone.
6. To avoid conflict
This is one of the major reasons why people lie, in general. Everyone does that because it's easier to lie and avoid a fight than telling the truth and facing the music. That's why most husbands lie when they are with a female friend or colleague. When you call and ask about where he is, he will simply say, "I am with a friend." He will lie to avoid having a fight with you and hurt you in the process.
7. It's about control
When men lie, they think that they are in control of the situation. They can manipulate the facts and the opinion of other people in any way they want. For instance, he got drunk at a party and had a one night stand. When he comes home, he would say that he stayed with a friend or anything like that to make you believe something that isn't true. Telling the truth means surrendering his control. He wants to present a certain image of himself or a situation and he comes up with lies to do that.
8. To get what he wants
Some men lie to serve their own purposes and get what they want. You can sometimes understand it when you are in a relationship. If everything your partner does is for himself, then you might be living with a selfish person. These people think that lying is not bad as long as it helps them in getting what they want.
Lying Fractures Trust
Men lie for a lot of reasons. Most of the time it's simply convenient to tell a lie to avoid conflict or hide their guilt. Sometimes it's because of insecurity or a need to create a certain image of their personality. Understanding the motive gives you an insight into their mind. It's not simply the motive behind the lie that matters. What happens when the lies are exposed is equally important. When people start lying too often, it affects the trust of people close to them. Their house of cards falls to the ground with a single blow.