We all dream about a perfect relationship with a wonderful partner, but in reality, we can even say that it's quite difficult to find a person who truly suits us. Asking yourself questions like "Do I want a relationship" or "Why do I want a boyfriend" can indicate that you're not so happy, or you feel that something's missing in your new relationship. Being in a bad relationship that doesn't make you fulfilled is worse than being single, even if many people don't think so. Sometimes bad relationships can be fixed, but nothing will work out if you're truly not ready for that. There are many signs that it's not the time for you to be with other people, and here are the ten main ones.
1. You want to focus on other aspects of your life
It's completely understandable that you have things that you find more important than having a partner. If you are young and want to have fun and gain more life experience, or if you are a person completely devoted to work, having a partner will only slow you down. It may also hurt the other person who fell for you. If you know that you can't manage to make time for both or make a balance, then you have to choose: having a partner or doing what you love and what makes you happy. Ambition is not bad and the only thing that's important is that you're happy. If you become less busy after some time, you can search for a partner.
2. You don't believe in love at all
If you've had your heart broken numerous times, it's no wonder that you don't believe in love. It is true that a real soulmate is there somewhere, although it is hard to find it. But If you enter a relationship with such an attitude that relationship is bound to fail, you will end up hurt again. Don't lose hope, but don't impetuously be with people if you have no faith in your new partner.
3. You can't be with only one person
Most of the people are monogamous and can't stand sharing their partner with others. We are all different, open relationships do exist. But if you want true bonding with a special person and you can't resist switching partners, then don't be in any kind of relationship where a person wants to build a monogamous connection with you. Be wild, have fun, and when you feel that you can be fully devoted to someone, search for a partner.
4. You are still missing your ex
Trying to replace your ex with a new person is a grave mistake because of many reasons. Firstly, no one can be replaced, and secondly, there is no chance that someone new will make you happy if you still dream about being with your ex. Furthermore, it wouldn't be fair to deceive someone and drag them into a relationship in which you only intend to use them to soothe your own pain. When you clear your head and forget your ex, you will be ready to be with someone new.
5. You are just afraid of being alone
Fear makes people make mistakes; that's a fact. Also, fear of loneliness is very common and tremendously unpleasant, so that's what makes some people desperately search for a partner. Ask yourself, "Do I want to be in a relationship just because I am afraid of being alone?" and be true to yourself. If you think that you will be alone until the end of time, that's just not true. Love happens when you don't expect it at all, so just be patient and don't worry. Entering a relationship just because you are lonely is a bad idea.
6. You are pushed to date someone
You can't choose who you like, and if you are pushed to date someone just because your friends think that's a great idea, it's not going to end well. Instead of doing someone a favor, think about yourself and your true desires. If you don't like the person you're going out with, you're just wasting your time. Anyway, if you still feel that you can't develop deep relationships with people, that means that you're still not ready to bond with someone.
7. You can't be happy with yourself
Feeling empty and purposeless is an indicator that you're not in peace with your own self. If you need other people in order to be happy, that means you have to work on yourself before you enter a relationship.
8. You always play the victim
If everything unpleasant that happens between you and other people is their fault and never yours, you are definitely not ready for a relationship. You have to learn that it's normal to make mistakes, and that you make them as much as others do. With the victim's attitude, you will never be able to connect with someone truly, because you will be unable to make compromises. It doesn't matter who's guilty and who's not. Mutual understanding and problem-solving is much more important.
9. You want to hurt your ex with being with someone else
It all comes to one thing, no matter for what reason: If you only want to use someone for a certain purpose, you shouldn't be in a relationship with them. Revenge indeed feels good, but it leads to nowhere. Who knows, maybe your ex won't care at all, and you will only end up harming a person who actually likes you.
10. You can't trust anyone
Lack of trust is the main reason why people part ways. If you are skeptical, there may be a reason for that. But regardless, you need to keep in mind that you have to change that in order to have any kind of relationship, not just a romantic one. Not all people have bad intentions. Furthermore, people are rarely hostile to others. When you let your guard down a bit, you will be able to find a partner and be happy.
Summary
At the end of the day, it's not really up to you to choose a partner, but you can always make a few changes in your behavior and become a part of a beautiful relationship. If you ask yourself, "Do I want a relationship?", that probably means that you're not ready for it yet.